"But let your ‘yes’ mean ‘yes,’ and your ‘no’ mean ‘no.’ Anything more than this is from the evil one."
We covered this verse a while back, but it deserves a reexamination because we compromise in this area often. Jesus is discussing the use of vows and swearing on objects to guarantee the validity of a statement, and He clearly says not to do it. The point is it shouldn't be necessary.
If you say “yes”, it should mean “yes”... and “no” should mean “no”. Extravagant declarations should not be required to assure people you are being truthful. There should be no need to promise, or swear, or take a vow... If it comes out of your mouth, others should know it is the truth. That is the foundation for strong relationships.
God holds honesty in much higher esteem then our society does. We use words like “smooth”, or “polished”, as commendations for those who can twist the truth. While “white lies”, and “exaggeration” are words used to gloss over what is in fact deceitfulness.
God is clear on this issue because He knows how devastating dishonesty can be. People can be deeply wounded by the speaking of a hard truth. But dishonesty not only wounds a relationship - it also destroys the tools needed to repair it. Once the truth comes out (and it always does), the lie leaves “radioactive fallout” that creates an environment where repair is difficult. If words cannot be believed, there is little left to rebuild with.
“To be honest with you"… should be an unnecessary and redundant phrase for Christians. The truth may hurt those you love, but at least it cuts clean and allows for future healing. A lie rips and tears, producing jagged edges that leave scars.
Own your actions. Speak the truth and face the consequences so when you emerge on the other side, there is still a foundation upon which you can rebuild. Live in such a way that no one questions your word... Be a man of integrity and provide a firm footing for strong relationships. At times it may be painful, but it gives hope for the future by preserving trust.
You must decide that truth is your only option... that is the non-negotiable price of integrity.
"If you have integrity, nothing else matters. If you don't have integrity, nothing else matters." - Harvey Mackay
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