“For we hear that there are some who walk among you in a disorderly manner, not working at all, but are busybodies. Now those who are such we command and exhort through our Lord Jesus Christ that they work in quietness and eat their own bread.”
Some of us are all too eager to reprimand our brothers. You know who you are, so don’t use this entry as an excuse to be harsh. But to the rest of us, this passage illustrates that, in order to make disciples, we must not only encourage, support, and model… but at times, admonish as well.
Our culture doesn’t respond well to correction. If I disagree with someone, I hate them… If I don’t embrace sin, I’m judgmental. If I say someone lacks discipline (as Paul does here) I’m a bully. We embrace scripture when it makes us “FEEL” better, but we balk at it when it demands we “BE” better.
As a coach, I loved my players, and I focused on encouraging. But I didn’t hesitate to correct problems. I didn’t waste time sugarcoating – I just pointed out problems and expected them to be corrected.
As a Christian, I’m not only urged in Matthew 18 to point out sin – I’m commanded to do it. In 2 Timothy it says, “all Scripture is God-breathed and useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting …”. Yet, rebuking and correcting aren’t considered acceptable in our culture, nor in many churches.
The opposition argues that we are commanded to speak the truth “IN LOVE”. That is true, and it is good that we major on love, but we cannot minor on truth. Scripture makes no distinction of importance between the two when issuing the command. In fact, they are indivisible. I cannot love you without telling you the truth.
People’s feelings matter, but their eternal destiny matters more… If you enjoy reprimanding people, then you’re doing it wrong. Reprimanding is difficult and it must be motivated by love and concern for the one being reprimanded… and though it is hard, the verse after this passage tells me to never tire of trying. Happiness is not our target, Holiness is… We are instructed to point out sin wherever we see it… whether it’s in our brother, or in our mirror.
"In the long run, the most unpleasant truth is a safer companion than a pleasant falsehood." — Theodore Roosevelt